Agewell Newsletter - March 2010

Center for Ageing

 March 2010

Age is a matter of mind

Aging can be difficult but not for all the times. Physically we all have to go through it, but psychologically we can remain young throughout our life. We should always remember that even though our physical appearance changes, our mind does not. People in their 70’s or 80’s can be much younger than people in their 30s or 40s. It all depends on one thing and that is our attitude towards our life. People are found complaining about their inability to enjoy fountain of youth, but they are often unaware of the fact that the youthfulness can be retained by simply looking within ourselves and changing our mindset.

Always remember, we are never too old to realize a new dream or set new targets in our life. Also we must realize, just because someone is older, it does not mean that they have nothing left to offer to their family members or society and are incapable of accomplishing great things in their remaining years. Henry Ford truly said, “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at Twenty or Eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young”.
Optimistic attitude towards life is a resource for healing. By practicing positive self-talk, thinking on "I can" instead of "I can't", reinforcing optimism with a continuous stream of positive affirmations and visualizing the good health we all can improve our outlook.
- Agewell Foundation

Under the Series of Symposiums on Needs & Rights of Older Persons
At Gulmohar Hall, India Habitat Centre, New Delhi
On 23rd April, 2010

(A study by Agewell Research & Advocacy Centre)


The experience of isolation or loneliness occurs in all human beings but it becomes a complex problem in Old Age. It is known that isolation is not a necessary accompaniment to ageing and that ageing is not solely responsible for the progress of isolation in older persons. However, there is a deep relationship between ageing and isolation.

Isolation is associated with a number of physical, social and psychological conditions. Generally it is believed that older persons living alone or with their spouses feel isolated. But today older persons living in nuclear or joint families also feel loneliness or isolation due to various reasons, particularly due to lack of social integration, less or no interaction amongst family members, etc.

With fast changing socio-economic scenario living conditions of the people all across the country have changed dramatically. Older persons find it very hard to cope with new socio-economic settings. Feeling of isolation and alienation with a sense of social marginalization is becoming a major problem for majority of the older persons. Thus, ever deepening sense of isolation/loneliness is diffusing the sheen of gracefulness of Old Age.

Research & Advocacy Centre at Agewell Foundation (a consortium of over 1500 NGOs and 6500 volunteers spread across 540 districts of India, committed to initiate better interaction between generations and extend a helping hand) has recently carried out a nationwide survey to study and identify / understand the problem of isolation in Old Age.

Agewell volunteers' network spread across the country worked as interviewers for the survey.


The study was carried out with the objective to identity the level of isolation and loneliness in Old Age, while going through the conditions older persons across the country are forced to live in.

The study was also designed to look out for the responsible causes of isolation in old age and its consequences on the health of the elderly in particular and society in general.


Comprehensive interviews were undertaken by managing time-bound schedules to collect information /impression/views from selected older persons from across the country

Under the survey a representative sample of 10000 older persons (approx. 5000 each from rural and urban areas) was interviewed spread across 20 states of the country.

In each group the target was to include every sections of the society, specifically –

  • Retired older persons
  • Non-pensioners/labourer farmers
  • Housewives
  • Literate
  • Illiterate
  • Financially secure
  • BPL family

Age-group wise classification of respondents

Respondents were further categorized in age group to understand the problem of isolation in old age better
61-70 Years
71-80 Years
81+ Years
Rural-Older Men
Rural-Older Women
Urban-Older Men
Urban-Older Women


v     Process of marginalization of older persons, thus creating isolation in old age has caught its speed over the past few decades.

v     It was found that older persons in the age group of 80+ elderly are feeling more isolation or loneliness in comparison to older persons in lower old age groups.  Over 93% elderly in this age group were found in complete isolation.

v     In the age group of 60-70 years 77.7% older persons also reported that they are going through a phase of isolation. They said that even after their active life they are being isolated in many ways. In age group of 70-80 years 87% older persons were found complaining of isolation and loneliness in old age.


v     83.71% older persons were found isolated in old age (60+). 8371 older persons out of total 10000 older persons contacted by Agewell volunteers said that they feel isolated or experience loneliness in their present life.

v     Level of isolation in old age of older persons living in urban areas was quite higher upto 89.8% in comparison to older persons of rural areas, where 77.62 % people reportedly feel isolated.

v     4490 older persons contacted in urban areas were feeling isolated wherein rural areas only 3891 older persons were found living with a sense of isolation.

v     In rural areas 1119 older persons said that they are not feeling any kind of isolation or loneliness whereas in cities only 510 older persons said they were not isolated.

v     Majority of older persons (44.23%) said that no/less interaction with family members or within society is major cause of their state of isolation or loneliness.

v     37.81 % elderly feel isolated because they were living alone or with their spouse only.

Types of Isolation

  1. Social isolation

It is the persistent withdrawal or absence or avoidance of social interaction. People feel isolated when others ignore their presence or do not give them due importance.

  1. Emotional isolation

It is a condition of isolation when the people are emotionally isolated, but may have a supportive social network

For the study we have divided elderly in two categories;

- Socially isolated elderly: Mainly due to their physical and social conditions
- Emotionally isolated elderly: Due to their strained interpersonal relationships of circumstances.

v     In rural areas 36.84 % older persons were reported isolated socially as well as emotionally.
v     In rural areas 21.7% older persons were found socially isolated and 19.08% older persons were emotionally isolated.
v     In urban areas 39.1% older persons were reported isolated socially as well as emotionally. Here older persons were much affected by emotional isolation (26.4%) than social isolation (24.28%).

Level of Isolation as per family structure

v     When asked about their views on isolation in their life, just 10.1% older persons living in joint families accepted that they consider themselves isolated, within their joint families.

v     In nuclear families about 68.4% older persons said that they are living in isolation, because they do not get adequate company of their family members.

v     Elderly living alone or with their spouses are most affected by isolation syndrome. Approx. 95% elderly living with their spouses & 97% elderly living consider themselves isolated.

v     Out of 1542 elderly living alone 1494 elderly persons said that they are facing problem of isolation.

v     Obviously, level of isolation in old age was found quite higher in cases of elderly living alone or with their respective spouses only.

v     Situation was good in joint families, but even after warmth of traditional joint families, elderly were found affected by isolation within family.

v     When data obtained from rural & urban areas was analyzed separately, it was also found that not as many elderly consider themselves isolated as their counterparts living in urban areas.

Impact of Isolation & Loneliness in Old Age

v     Majority of older persons reportedly complaining about isolation & loneliness in old age (42%) said that they are facing depression due to isolation & loneliness.

v     Every third older person facing loneliness was found in bad health condition because of loneliness and less interaction with people. 35.24% older persons said that their health have deteriorated further since they fell alone.

v     Due to isolation in old age, 16.1% older persons were found feeling unsecured in their lives.

  1. Isolation

Due to isolation in their life, elderly were found affected with the following problems
-         Nervousness & anxiety
-         Panic & aggressive nature
-         Eating disorders leading to health disorders
-         Addictions & substance abuse
-         Feeling of insecurity
-         Financial imbalance

  • 21.3 % older persons reportedly accepted that they feel nervousness and anxiety when they feel isolated. At the same time 17.69% older persons said that their nature has turned aggressive and they live in panic.

  • Another 15% older persons have developed eating disorders due to their isolation.

  • 16.1% elderly got their financial matters disturbed due to isolation related problems.

B. Loneliness

Due to loneliness in their life, older persons were found suffering from the following;
-         Feeling of unhappiness and dejection
-         Increased substance abuse / smoking
-         Uneasiness & distress
-         Reduced self-esteem
-         Increased trauma levels
-         Health disorders like blood pressure

  • When older persons were asked about impact of loneliness on their life, approximately one-fourth older persons facing loneliness (24.1%) said that they have developed health disorders, 17.69% older persons said that they feel unhappiness and dejection in loneliness.

  • 16.14% older persons were found with low self-esteem due to loneliness in their life. In absence of social interaction their interpersonal skills were found at lowest level.

Assessment of mental state of isolated elderly

When the survey team attempted to understand the state of mind of older persons facing isolation, some revealing and surprising facts emerged. It was found that older persons have started adjusting their lives accordingly.

v     35.98% of isolated elderly accepted that they are happy with their kind of life. Whereas 38.9% of isolated elderly said that they are somewhat happy with their life in old age. Only one-forth (25.1%) isolated older persons was not found happy with their life.

v     When volunteers tried to understand the happiness in isolation, it was that majority of isolated older persons (53.0%) were self-conscious. They were self-conscious towards the following,
a.       Their physical appearance
                                                               i.      Gray hair or baldness
                                                             ii.      Wrinkles on the body, particularly on face
                                                            iii.      Poor eyesight/ hearing ability
                                                           iv.      Other old age related problems like weaker teeth, leaning back, etc.
b.      Social appearance
                                                               i.      No knowledge of modern technology like computers, mobile, internet, TV, etc.
                                                             ii.      Being ignored at public places/functions, etc.
c.       Financial appearance
                                                               i.      Less / no income
                                                             ii.      Less income generation ability
                                                            iii.      No employment

During the survey it was noticed that older persons, living in isolation, wanted to interact with younger generations, but they resist themselves because they don’t want to see themselves as ignored or unwanted, realizing younger generation’s unpredictable attitude towards older persons. 

In other words, majority of older people live in their own world, which is full of their past sweet and sour memories of their success and failures, their romance or adventure in their lives.

v     Approximately 1/5th (21.59%) isolated but happy older persons like living alone or isolated because they don’t like modern life style. They had criticized west-oriented culture throughout their lives, that why they want to live within their own set parameters.

v     18.6% older persons accepted that they want to live with peace of mind, that’s why they don’t’ want to involve themselves into other’s life and live alone happily.

According to report older men are found more prone to isolation in old age in comparison to older women. Women were found less self-conscious towards their changed appearances, therefore they were found friendlier in whatever situations.

Paradoxically, it was found that isolated older persons keep themselves busy with various types of activities that in turn keeps them happy as well.

v     21.36% older persons attend or like to participate in social events happening around their residences. 20.12% said that they like to visit their friends/relatives to keep themselves busy. Interestingly 22.0% older persons keep or wanted to keep themselves busy with some kind of social work.


  • In spite of active participation of older persons in family’s financial matters as well as social obligations and having originally possessed major part of the household/land property, they are ignored by younger family members.

  • Social interaction is one of the major factors that determine level of isolation in old age. In rural areas people have more social interactions and less pain of isolation or loneliness.

  • Older persons in urban areas have limited access to social interactions, due to various reasons; consequently they face lower self-esteem and decline in interpersonal skills. They are also found to be more self-conscious.

  • Older persons living in joint families and even in nuclear families have limited or no interaction with their own family members. Interpersonal relations are not found healthy in many cases. This is yet another reason of their loneliness in old age.

  • Isolation or loneliness in old age is critical, as it leads depression/ nervousness causing many diseases. It does not only weaken their mental health but also affects physical health in old age.

  • From the study it was also established that older persons in large number like isolation in old age due to various reasons. They want to live their kind of life in old age.

  • Elderly women were found less isolated than elderly men due to their inner strengths, like patience, fine-tuning with family/society members, etc.

Representative statements from older persons

“At the age of 75, when I need family support, I am forced to live alone. My sons are settled in towns but they have no place for their parent.”
- Ashok Kumar Bhadoria (75 years), Jhansi, UP

 “In a big family of 7 members, there is no one to whom I can share few moments. They are busy with their businesses and I am busy with my loneliness.”
- Mohd. Hanif Khan, a 69-year-old person from Mumbai

“After demise of my wife, my life is filled with sound of silence and color of darkness”
-         Abinash Biswas, 74-year-old person from Burdwan, West Bengal

“I had worked hard for the welfare of my children, but now they have no time for me, instead they treat me as a burden on their family.”
-         Rukmani P Iyer, 85-year-old widow from Chennai


Ever-changing socio-economic scenario of the country has resulted in emergence & popularity of nuclear family system in both, rural and urban areas. Due to heavy migration of younger generation in search of better opportunities, older persons are compelled to live in their houses without their young family members. In absence of their children & grand-children, they felt themselves completely isolated and alone.

As majority of Older Persons had spent their active life in joint families, they find it very difficult to live alone or with their spouses alone. However, a trend of living in isolation, particularly in old age is emerging. This process was seen faster in metros.

So far as Isolation in Old Age is concerned, whereas in rural areas older persons are the major victims of governments developmental policies favoring urban areas, in urban areas elderly are affected due to lack of social & interpersonal interaction among family/ society members.

There is an urgent need to focus on speed up of the developmental projects in rural areas, so that younger generations could seek suitable job opportunities nearby their residences. At the same time, in urban areas, developing social & interpersonal interactions among older persons is urgently required.

On the other hand, older persons need to be motivated and encouraged about how to live happily in isolation.

In short, our older generations never left alone their children, when they were in crisis, how can younger generation leave their elderly alone, when they need them urgently?


Symposium on “Interpersonal Relations in Old Age”
- An effort to strengthen the bond between generations
 (India Habitat Centre, New Delhi on 20 Feb.,  2010 )

To discuss the interpersonal relations in old age, in view of completely changed socio-economic scenario & family structure Agewell has decided to organize a symposium-cum-interaction session on Interpersonal Relations in Old Age. The discussion in the symposium focused on reasons responsible for strained interpersonal relations in old age and remedies thereof. Eminent and scholarly personalities like Mr. Kuldip Nayar, renowned journalist and social commentator, Mr. Inder Malik, former Ambassador & writer addressed the symposium and expressed their views on the subject.

In the process of creating elderly-friendly environment across the country, Agewell Foundation, an NGO dedicated towards the welfare & empowerment of Older Persons is organizing interactive symposium on “Interpersonal Relations in Old Age” under the series of Symposiums on ‘Needs & Rights of Older Persons’ at Gulmohar Hall, India Habitat Centre, Lodi Road, New Delhi on 20th February 2010 from 6:30 pm. onwards.

Agewell’s series of symposiums is an attempt to sensitize the leaders, policy makers and opinion makers to come together and raise their voice to empower the senior citizens.  Speaking on the latest initiative Mr. Himanshu Rath, Chairman, Agewell Foundation said, “Agewell aims at bringing about a change in the perception of old age and assist older persons to move towards confidence, respect and mutual caring. Over the years, we have initiated several initiatives to facilitate our elderly to make their old age better, happier and healthier.”


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